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Hurtfeeliweenpeoplebeveryupsetting.Howshouldyourespondwheoyouplainingaboutbeing“putdown”
orinsultedbysomeoneelse?
PsychologistJafieldhasagoodsuggestion.Saytotheplainer，“SupposeIweretosay，‘Joe，youhavegreenhair.'Wouldthatmakeyoufeelbad?”
He'llprobablyreply，“No.”
Ask，“Whynot?”
Hislikelyreply：“BeowIdon'thavegreenhair.”
Yousay，“SoWhatIsaytoyouaffecthowyoufeel.Whatyoubelieveaboutyourselfismoreimportant.”
Add，“WhatifIsay，‘Joe，youaremeanandselfish'?Thatstatementlyhurtyouifyouhavedoubtsaboutwhetheryoureallyaremeanandselfish.Ifyouareclearthatyouareawarm，gehenyouwon'tbehurtbecauseyouknowwhatIsaidisn'ttrue.”
“Anytimeyoufeelupsetaboutwhatsomeonesaysaboutyou，orsomethingyoudo，it'sbecauseatsomelevelyoudoubtyourselfinthatarea.”
“Ifsomeonesays，i，‘Youhavegreenhair'andyouknowyoudon't，there'snoproble”
“Ifthere'ssometruthinersonsays，viewitasfeedbaationyouprovement.”
&ion：Whenpeoplefeelihisstoryandaskiftheyhavegreenhair.
人与人之间的感情受到伤害时，总会心烦意乱。
当别人向你抱怨他受到“羞辱”
或被别人侮辱时，你该怎样回应他呢？
心理学家杰克·坎菲尔德有一个很好的建议，即对抱怨者说：“如果我对你说，‘乔，你长绿头发了。
’你会感到难过吗？”
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